Don’t hold people back from what they really want to do.

Tommy - Lake, Michigan
Entered on April 18, 2008

In December the school I attend held a wrestling invitational tournament. During this tournament I met an amazing girl named Lydia. Over the next few weeks or so we talked on myspace and the phone. After a few weeks I invited her back down for the annual Snowfest dance at my school. During that night our feelings for each other grew immensely. The next day I went up to see her again and we both realized how much we both really cared for each other. During this visit I met most of her family and everything was going as good as it possibly could. The only problem was that in July she would be leaving for Georgia for college.

It has now been four months since we met. We are with each other as much as possible which isn’t too much considering she lives an hour and a half away. We both want to have a serious relationship, but it’s not easy since she’s leaving in July; and with the distance between us it would be hard to deal with. My parents have been a great help to our friendship. With Lydia and I being only 17 they are the ultimate deciders on when we get to see each other. Lately that hasn’t been a problem at all. My parents have had no problem with me going to see her at least once a week or sometimes if I’m lucky even twice. Her parents are the same way as mine. Even with her being the only daughter of the family, her parents haven’t had a problem with her coming down to see me. The hardest thing for me to do is encourage her to continue her dream of going to college in Georgia. This is why I believe that you shouldn’t hold people back from things that they really want. It is the hardest thing for me to keep myself from asking her to stay here and continue the relationship we have been building these last few months. Sometimes holding yourself from doing things is as hard as not holding someone else back from what they really want to do. But, I do realize that this is her dream and no matter how hard it is for me to do, I have to let her do what she really wants to do because it’s her life to decide, not mine. I would like to continue the relationship after I finish high school. I have applied to the college that she is attending.

Eventually all the sacrifices you make in life for other people are going to pay off. You might not realize, it but eventually they will. They might show up in obvious ways or little by little. Who knows maybe even all at once with something that you would never expect.