Surround yourself with good people and your life will be great. By surrounding yourself with people who love and support you, you will find happiness. These people do not have to be compatible with you, but they should be positive people who bring out the best in you and you do the same for them. My friends and I focus on the positive. Instead of talking about other people, we talk about what is going on in our lives and we think of funny scenarios and laugh at them for hours.
I believe in order to be happy and content with life, I need friends that are outgoing, energetic, and most of all friends that make me laugh. It has taken me a long time to realize that surrounding myself with the right people makes all the difference. I was once friends with someone who had a negative outlook on everything. She constantly talked about other people to make herself feel better. She made everything we did into a competition. She watched to see who ran the fastest at the rec center, who spent the most when shopping, and who has the more expensive brand name clothes. This constant negativity and competitiveness wore me down and left me feeling pessimistic and alone.
It took stepping out of my comfort zone and talking to new people in school for me to realize life does not have to bring you down. I started associating myself with new, fun people. My life made a 180 degree turn around. I began laughing, smiling, and enjoying life again.
To this day I choose to surround myself with people who have my best interest in mind. I look for people who are outgoing, who share the same values as me, and who like to have fun. By following these guidelines I have completely changed my life. Instead of trying to fit into a mold made by my old friends, my new friends allow me to be me. Being able to be yourself when you are with your friends is one of the most important aspects of friendship.
Another benefit to surrounding yourself with the right people is that people will have a good outlook on you. They will see your true colors because your friends will bring out the best in you.
Since I changed my life and met new friends, my true personality has come out. I am much more talkative with family, friends, acquaintances, and even strangers. I love joking around and cracking jokes with my friends. Before I felt like I would be judged if I would tell a joke or say something out of the norm. Now I say what is on my mind without worrying about what the repercussions will be. Surrounding yourself with the right people will make all the difference in making your life better.
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