This I believe:
I believe in choice. Everyone is entitled to their own perception of life, as well as the route they take to cope with it. I am faced with many decisions day to day. Having the right to decide which direction I want to go adds excitement to my everyday life. Still, many people do not realize the importance of making choices, and the large impact it has on life and a person’s independence.
As a child there were not many decisions to be made. And if there were, they weren’t really a big deal. Well, that’s what I would think compared to the major choices I make now. Like whether we wanted nuggets or pizza, pokemon or digimon, Barbie or my little pony. Those small decisions back then prepared us for the big ones we would face as teens then later as adults.
Just recently I had to choose between whether I wanted to live in Texas or Louisiana. That was a very hard decision I had to make because if I chose Texas I would be leaving my family. On the other hand, if I chose Louisiana I wouldn’t really be happy. Then I remembered that with every choice there is a consequence. Whether it is good or bad, I chose Texas. I was sad, but I believe it was a choice I had to make for me, and not my family.
I don’t believe in lettings others make my choices for me. How will I learn the difference between what is acceptable and what isn’t? Yes there are parents and teachers to explain it to you, but how effective can it really be. I believe that you learn more from experience, and for it to be taken away, I don’t believe is right. It is no ones right but mine to worry about the good or bad consequences that may come with the choices I make.
There have been times when I have made decisions that had a negative effect on others. Many of the choices I made led to hurt feelings or bad fights. I now know that they were mistakes and I am ok with that. We all learn from our mistakes. Some of the most successful people today wouldn’t be where they are now with out making some of their own. Now don’t get me wrong, I am a person who understands the importance of advice and I am always open to other people’s opinion. I am not going to let that one person or even group of people sway me into what they believe is the right choice. If I chose what they believed over what I truly believed I am giving them my choice.
Most people today love to consider them selves independent. What they don’t realize, is that independence is reached with the choices they make. It dose not matter how hard or easy the choice to be made is. If you always have someone constantly making them for you, are you actually independent?
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