Deal with it
It was her fault! If only that simple phrase applied to every situation, well some people happen to think it does. Excuses might seem to be the “easy way-out,” or the sensible solution at the time. Yet will you ever have to answer for your faults in the future? I believe in dealing with the consequences of your actions.
Even when I look back on my own experiences, I’ve noticed that the best results, always happened after I told the truth. Take a stand and fix what you broke, even if it’s just a nick get some spackle and some paint and repair the damages that you’ve made. Don’t cover things up, or hide a dilemma. Imagine late one night being bored, sitting around and doing absolutely nothing. You just got home from the D.M.V., and you have a licence in your pocket. I license without a car. That’s exactly what happened to me. It may seem strange to some, and well now it seems like a pretty dumb move to me too. A friend mentioned that her parents were out, and their car was in the garage. You’re always told “never take anything that doesn’t belong to you,” well I figured it was her car and I was “borrowing.” So after our pointless drive over to Elmhurst to order some buffalo wild wings, we decided to stash the vehicle back into the driveway where we had previously found it.
Later we thought all of our sneaking around and trickery worked, we thought we had gotten away with driving around all night. We thought this, until I received a phone call the next day. My friend’s parents told me they knew, they knew everything. How often does anyone get a flat tire? That’s exactly what I thought before riding over that pothole on York road.
After instantly apologizing, I begged to pay for a new tire and to find a way how to compensate for their loss. Then the next day, my friend told me that her parents discussed my honesty and apology the rest of then night. They had recognized this as bad judgement and granted me with a second chance.
I’m not a stranger to failure and regret, but I do admit to my behaviors and bad decisions. I feel like surmounting obstacles is a must, and if you commit a crime or you happen to take part in a risky behavior you should expect to face the consequences and redeem yourself. Redemption is a positive goal that will prevent you from having to fib or lie. Justifications of why you do something shouldn’t be the first thing that comes out of one’s mouth when they are interrogated by authorities. Whether you’re answering to your parents, the police, or even teacher, start with the apologies and then move on to the solution.
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