I believe in The Flow;
The flow of time, of life, of thought, of the mind, and of our hearts. I believe in its power to heal and forgive. Young as I am, I know many people who have faced adversity. My advice has always been the same: you’ll get through, you’ll find a way. It’s like what Richard Adams says in Watership Down, about how the rabbits can just be patient and let the current of life carry them from their troubles. All too often people forget this. In a society where technology is king, we are accustomed to having everything instantly; as a whole, we have lost our ability to sit back and let things sort themselves out in front of us. Luckily, life is not afraid to remind everyone.
For example, I used to work with a girl named Jessica at Old Country Buffet. She was pregnant, and was happy that so far this baby was healthy. Well, things turned bad near the birth. She was constantly low on cash, and her family seemed unable to help her. She could barely scrape together the money she needed for medicine and vitamins, and was lucky to have been able to have a baby shower. She didn’t fair so well after the baby was born, either. Her man went back to jail after just finding a job to try to pay off his fines, and she still didn’t have a job yet. Throughout all this, she kept asking me, “What am I going to do?” I told her, “You’re going to find a way. You have to. You don’t have a choice.” My belief proved true; she has a well-paying job now, a baby-sitter, and she is patching up her relationship. All that pain, that worry, it’s all behind her now, nothing but a pale memory.
The same is true for a lot of situations. Look at any big project you’ve ever stressed over in your life, or in my case, something like my senior project. Where is its power now, that which caused me to sweat and worry? It’s inside me, a part of the flow again. It will show itself throughout my life, but I will be stronger with the memory of my trial. Having faced the conundrum before, I could just let The Flow take me beyond the problem. That means things like class finals or even my college senior project will not seem so impassible or unachievable. Even if I did worry, the other part of The Flow could take me: the flow of our hearts. Your friends and mine are always there for us. Talk with them or ask for help; they’ll be happy to give it, and it will be a burden off your shoulders.
In short, just remember: if you’re having a crappy day, and nothing seems to go right for you, just relax. Calm down. There’s always time to do something, but no time to worry about it. Like the night, day will follow, as will a rainbow from a storm. All you need do is wait, and you’ll get through it.
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