People always say, “Honesty is the best policy.” Until very recently, I firmly believed that. But after giving someone my honest opinion when they asked for it and having her blow everything out of proportion, my belief has drastically changed.
I recently posted a blog stating that I would give someone my honest opinion about him or her if they just left their name in a comment. And I did exactly what I said I was going to do. I gave everyone who asked my honest opinion about them. But one person got very upset about what I had to say. She asked why I felt that way I did and I explained everything to her to the best of my abilities. That wasn’t enough for her. She kept pushing and prodding. I tried to explain everything I felt, saw, and heard to her but it was like she wasn’t hearing a single word I said. I had tried to tell her that in the world it is all about how you present yourself and how you come across to people. Then things went south. She began to give her “own personal opinion” about me. In reality it was just a malicious attack on my appearance and myself. However, I kept my cool and didn’t say anything I would later regret.
Looking back on things that were said, I do not regret anything I said. I went back and read everything that was said by both of us and could not see that I was ever in the wrong. My other friend (who is good friends with both of us) also told me that I was never in the wrong. If I had been in the wrong at anytime during that conversation I would have apologized. But since I did exactly what I said I was going to do, I see absolutely no need for me to apologize.
After everything was said and done, I realized something very important. Not everyone can handle honesty with maturity. They would rather not know what you truly think than to know the truth. For some people, honesty is not the best policy.
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