If I had to choose one thing in which I believe, it would be above all, honesty. There is nothing worse in this world than knowing you’ve been lied to; you feel taken advantage of, undermined, and belittled not only by the person lying to you, but by yourself, for trusting that person. At least, that’s how I felt. The worst feeling is self-betrayal. How could I have believed that? Why did I let myself believe something I knew couldn’t be real? Why did I let myself down?
Honesty is a difficult thing to possess, I know. To tell the truth makes you vulnerable, at fault, and subject to other people’s opinions of you. It is the scariest thing in the world to admit the truth to other people; it is even scarier to admit it to yourself. If you cannot tell yourself the truth, there is no way you can trust, and in turn, love someone else. I believe this with all my heart.
Saying you love someone doesn’t mean that the words coming from your mouth carry the same sentiment. Saying that you’ll always be there for someone doesn’t make it true. Follow up your words with actions! Make sure the words that come from your mouth are SAYING what you MEAN. Too many hearts have been broken, bonds severed, and bridges burned by people spitting loose words and false promises. If there is one thing that I believe above all else, it is that we must tell the truth. Prove your worth with it; prove your loyalty, your love. That is all I ask.
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