This I Believe

Melody - Conway, Arkansas
Entered on October 23, 2007
Age Group: 18 - 30

Opposites Attract

Have you ever been intrigued by someone that has different qualities than

you? Have you had a friend that was so different than you that you two got along

perfectly? People naturally try to stay in their norm by talking to people who

have similar interest and that are mutually of the same social group. People

are not always open-minded to approach a total unique stranger unless they are

forced too. For example, high school is one of the main stereotypical places

during adolescent years. An outgoing cheerleader would rarely go up to a shy

gothic dressed girl and fashionably start a conversation in hopes of gaining a new

acquaintance. People learn to accept everyone’s differences by keeping

themselves discrete from a contrasting group, because there’s a fear of creating

any awkward situation.

When people look for a potential friend, they look for things they have in

common, such as sports, music, hobbies, religion, personality, etc. However, what

if being friends with someone that has totally different characteristics than you

affect you in a positive way? In the movie, Tommy Boy, the main two characters

are best friends, but are the complete opposite in appearances, personalities,

goals, and lifestyles. Tommy is overweight, repugnant, and lazy, and the other is a

skinny, up-tight, responsible conformist. This kind of movie is great for comedy,

but it teaches a great lesson about friendship in general. Learning something new

from someone and experiencing an innovative life could broaden your mind

about people in general, and most importantly learn something new about

yourself.

On my first day of my fourth grade class at my new school, my insecurities

displayed that I was indeed the shy “new” girl that no one wanted to

acknowledge. When class began, my teacher introduced me very pleasingly, then

asked if someone would show me around campus. I would never of guessed

that the person that volunteered would be my life long friend. Katie was not just

any ordinary girl that voluntarily chose to show me around, she dressed uniquely,

talked loudly and a lot, and acted like a carefree rebel. I had no choice but to

assume she was my only potential friend at the time and could not pass up the

opportunity.

As we grew up, our differences grew more transparent each year.

She was a spontaneous, obnoxious, tom-boy activist, and I was preppy

conservative perfectionist. Today, if you saw us together, you would think that

our personalities would clash immediately. However, growing up together helped

us understand each other’s differences and appreciate that we got to experience

such a unique friendship. No matter how hard we would try to change each

other’s habits, it just caused more turmoil and reason that we could never be

friends. It is not until someone grows up and matures that they learn their true

diversity from their childhood friends. Katie and I knew we had different lifestyles

and habits but we thought that’s what makes our friendship so special. Sure we

argued A LOT, and tried to always correct one another on everything. It was

tough, but we always stuck together in the long run, because we knew we could

always count on each other.

People do not usually choose their life long friends. Everyone is bound to be

different in their own peculiar way, and that distinction could contribute to

someone else’s life in a positive way. Personal relationships are all about the

chemistry and the journeys that they experience together. Connecting with

someone on a personal level and good communication is crucial for a friendship

to last an eternity. It’s always interesting to have someone in your life that adds

excitement and truly shows the meaning of individuality. Stereotypical labels hold

people back from having the opportunity to nurture and embrace a friendship

that could change you point of view of things. Whether it’s a friendship, a life-long

partner, or a family member, this I believe that opposites attract.