“Hey Claudia do you have a dollar I can borrow?” someone says. “No I don’t I’m sorry” or “Yeah I do, here hold on.” This is what usually comes out of my mouth when someone asks me for money, when they need something for class, or any other little thing. People say that I’m too nice because I always giving, letting people borrow money or whatever else they need. To me, it’s just being nice, doing the right thing.
Whenever I need or want something, I just ask for it. For the most part, I usually get it, but unfortunately there are times when I don’t. I don’t dwell on what is not given to me, instead I say to myself “I really didn’t need it, I can live without it, oh well.” This connects to the common old phrase what goes around comes around. Most people are familiar with this phrase. Some believe in it, some don’t. I believe in it. I always like to help people out, and when I have the resources to do so I help them out any way I can. I don’t always receive the help I need or want in return but it’s always given back to me in another form. I am always blessed with something each and everyday even if I don’t notice it.
In a broader phrase it is Life is fair and/ or Life is unfair. Both are true to me. Life is unfair because one does not get what one wants or needs. Things don’t always happen the way one wants them to. Maybe life is fair, since everyone believes it’s unfair. Life is fair because if it were all rainbows and butterflies, we would be so used to things being so great, we wouldn’t appreciate what we do have and receive in life. Life is fair because it is interesting, different things happen everyday, and all the bad things that happen can be turned into learning experiences which helps ones life out in the long run or just for the moment.
All these phrases or quotes I believe in. There is one that I have never heard. One that I believe to be true but others may not. It is my phrase, Give when you have and help when you can. This does not have to do with just money and material things. I went through a hard time this past year where I was not at home for about two months. My parents were going to get divorced. I would wake up on a bed that wasn’t mine in a house that wasn’t mine and with a family that helped my family through this hard time. This family had no blood relation to me yet they took us into their home when they knew they could help us and they gave us hospitality when they had the resources to do so. I used to think that what goes around comes around was not true. This that was occurring, I thought, was something I did not deserve yet these people who were not family gave us what they could. “Hey I did that before” I said to myself, I gave what I could, and here they are helping us out by giving us what they had. I also thought that life was indeed unfair, because of what had occurred, I did not like that fact. With this experience I learned that life is fair. Without this experience I would not have learned how strong I could be as a person and how strong I could be to help my mother out with this ordeal, or other people for that fact. We passed through this with struggles but still overcame these struggles and this has brought me to where I am today in life. Without the help of this family, which I know consider as part of my family, I don’t know where I would be and how it would have affected my school and my life now. I thank them for their help and now say to the reader of this to believe what I believe or at least understand what I will say: “Give when you have and help when you can.”
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