Growing older has given me many different perspectives
on life. It’s given me respect for everything around
me, independence, and integrity. The hard times I’ve
gone through have taught me valuable lessons; my
mistakes, my lost dreams, unfinished goals, and
ignorant actions have made me the person I am today.
Although I’ve lived through harsh life lessons the one
moral I live by and believe in the most is not taking
life for granted.
When I was in sixth grade I entered my very own
“social bubble”, which means that my life was revolved
around my social activities. I cared more about my
friends, how people thought about me, TV, dances and
every other distraction, than I did about the
important things in life. In that “bubble”, I never
improved. I’d make the same mistakes over and over
again as if I had nothing to worry about. It only got
worse as I entered high school. I lived as if there
would always be a tomorrow. I would skip school, be
disrespectful to others – and even myself. I was
living but striving for nothing; because I was
ignorant about my future and how precious life is to
be throwing it away like I was.
I proceeded with my bad habits until a heartbreaking
event “popped” my “bubble”. It was the death of my six
year old cousin Omar that turned my life around. He
was hit by an SUV and killed instantly. Just like
that… He was gone. It was a very hard time for my
family; we went through a depression stage but grew
strong together. All of a sudden my life wasn’t
revolved around me anymore or “what happened last
weekend at that party”. It was a slap in the face for
me, but it’s unfortunate that I had to realize it from
the death of my close relative.
After the loss in my family, I started thinking about
my future and past, and how I wanted to change. The
thought that everyone’s life is temporarily given to
them is horrifying. The fact that it can be taken,
just like that, without a single clue. I regret the
poor choices I’ve made in the past, and after grieving
and thinking it through, I decided to turn my life
around, because I was taking my life for granted.
So here I am today, a year and a half later, proof
that people can dramatically change. I’m a completely
different person; determined and living life like
there won’t be a tomorrow. Giving thanks for everyday
I’m able to live, making goals, forgiving and
forgetting, learning from simple mistakes and avoiding
bad ones, looking outside of my “social bubble”,
trying things I’ve never done. Basically not taking
life for granted and taking the most out of it.
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