This I Believe…
Growing up and living without both of my parents was and is a difficult and challenging life. I missed out on a lot of special occasions that other kids had with their parents and I never really liked authority much because I feel that I raised myself. But to me this lifelong challenge instilled some of my beliefs, and it contributed to showing me some of the things that I value in life. I do believe that every parent should provide for their children to the fullest extent. I also feel that parents should take more responsibility in raising their children, and parents should try to consider consequences of having children before they decide on having them. Another important belief of mine is that parents should try and be a part of their children’s lives as much as possible without making the child feel insecure.
Every parent should provide for their children as much as possible even if it requires sacrificing things for themselves. I feel that parents should always try to give their children the best they can afford or offer. Parents should be able to distinguish from their luxuries and their child’s necessities. A child’s future to me is priceless and everything that involves developing it should be executed thoroughly to ensure that it is kept safe and is being nurtured correctly.
Parenting to me is the biggest responsibility that you will ever have in your life, because what could ever be more important than taking care of another life. In America today I feel that parents try to put off a lot of parenting responsibilities. I think that parents should remember that parenting starts at home with their children and not at the television set, school or church. Most of the time when a tragedy occurs involving children the media and even the parents try to blame entertainers, other children, or the environment surrounding the child for the cause of the tragedy. But the real tragedy to me is the parents not taking the blame for their kids’ actions, and not taking responsibility for their kid’s actions before the trouble.
I think that having a child is a process that should take deep consideration. Bringing a life into the world is a big step and challenge that you must be prepared for. But all of the children that I have known to be born were unexpected, but I still feel that nine months is quite a bit of time to get prepared financially, mentally, and spiritually.
One of the biggest requirements of parenting to me is for the parents to be involved in the child or children’s lives. The hardest thing for me when I was younger was not having anyone to talk to about anything, I just lived at home with my grandmother who was much older than me and she really couldn’t relate to a lot of stuff that I was experiencing. But since I have overcame all of these hardships I know what being a father consist of. So when my fatherhood is approaching I will take time to prepare for my child, take full responsibility for my child, and become not only the best father for my child but their best friend also.
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