Many people I know take their past for granted. Maybe this is because they have had a bad past. However the reality is that, no matter how awful the past may be, the events of the past play a major factor to present and future characteristics of a person, no matter how big or small of the event, or its significance. I believe the past makes you who you truly are.
From past experiences, I can honestly say that this statement is true. Learning from past mistakes or from past occurrences, helps build up true characters within a person. For example, when I was in my freshman year, I finally had my first “boyfriend.” Of course being that age, and having that mentality, I thought I had it all. But when I started talking to this older guy, meeting up with him, of course as friends, or.. what I had thought would stay as a friendship, ended my relationship with my boyfriend. What I didn’t realize, was the upcoming consequence behind my lie when I broke up with my boyfriend for this older guy. I told him that I didn’t want a relationship at the time, which was strange, because of the fact that I went out with this other guy, only a few days after. I figured, I would like him better, being older, having a car, coming to visit me whenever he wanted, taking me out to nice places and etc. but that wasn’t the case at all. My father didn’t allow it of course me being a freshman and going out with a senior. But still through the time, I talked to my ex-boyfriend but, it put our relationship in an awkward state. It was odd how he still forgave me, and how he said he would still give me another chance. That was when I knew I had messed up. After breaking up with my new boyfriend, I talked to my ex more and more. We established a friendship, and decided to keep it that way. But my new ex, doesn’t talk to me at all, which turned out for the better.
This just goes to show that not everything in life is the way you expected things to turn out. But by learning from that incident, I now know how to better treat a guy, or any person in that matter, whether or not they are just my friends. With this state of mind, I know I have learned from that huge mistake. I regret ever doing that, of course, but I know we are okay now, and I know I will never lie to a friend if I am ever in that situation again.
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