This I Believe

Michael - Scottsdale, Arizona
Entered on April 27, 2007
Age Group: 18 - 30
Themes: death

Death and dying are a big part of life and there will be a time when someone you love or know is going to die. I have lost a lot of family members to death and it is a very hard thing to deal with but I have learned how to celebrate their lives instead of spending my time mourning them. The most difficult death that I have had to deal with in my life so far was that of my cousin Brendan.

My cousin, Brendan’s death was very hard for me to deal with because we were only a year apart in age and we were very close. When we were younger we would always spend time together on the weekends and spend the night at each others houses. As we got older we both went our separate ways and into high school but we started hanging out again and got to be very close again. It was the last night of spring break for him and he was at a party with some friends. I was supposed to go with him but my parents wouldn’t let me go. He left the party with three of his friends in the car. He had been drinking and he ran a red light and was t-boned by a pick-up truck. All of the other three guys lived but after three days on life support Brendan was completely brain dead. There was a person in the car that had not been drinking that night but didn’t step forward and tell Brendan to let him drive. Even before this had happened I promised myself I would never drink and drive or drive drunk but this tragic event just gave me even more reason not to. The way I deal with Brendan’s death is by celebrating his life and remembering all the good times we spent together.