This I Believe
One of these days I’m going to get married. When I do, I know it will be to a wonderful man who I’ve waited for for a very long time. This I believe: I believe in saving myself for marriage. I believe that when the time comes to get married I am going to love my husband more than any other man I’ve ever been with. Because of this I want him to be the first man that I am ever ‘with’. I believe that my husband is going to deserve the best, and I want to be able to give my best to him. My best is that which I have held back from all others-which I have reserved for him and him alone. This is why I have, and will continue to hold off physical intimacy until my wedding.
Relationships are very complicated to begin with. I believe in finding a person who understands this and wants to focus on building a relationship with a strong foundation first, not someone who gives in to the impulsive desire and instant gratification and that comes with sex before marriage. There is no greater form of intimacy; it should be valued and treasured as a precious thing both to possess and receive. If two people can have a relationship aside from this it will be only because they have spent a great deal of time creating a relationship based around respect, restraint, and a genuine interest in each other. Really getting to know another person, at their most complex and vulnerable level is another form of intimacy that might never be experienced if the focus is just on getting to know that person physically. I believe that practicing abstinence is a way to ensure a successful relationship that will stand the test of time. If I am with someone who does not respect me enough to understand this then I know I am not with the right person. I believe that in waiting I will find someone worth waiting for.
I believe that my first time should be extremely special. (Maybe not perfect, but special.) The only way for this to happen is if I have found the right person, and there is not a doubt in my mind that we will still be together ten, twenty, or sixty years down the road. The man who is willing to completely commit himself to me is the one I will be able to give myself to completly. I believe that when we have both taken a vow before God to become husband and wife, then and only then, will my first time be truly special and everything I have waited for. Anything less is simply not good enough. This I believe: I believe in waiting to have sex until I am married.
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