To be different anymore is a conviction. We are a living product of someone’s idea of what life should be. We have this blueprint that is engraved in our minds that confuses us sometimes. We of course don’t know any better than to follow this blueprint that we are taught since we are born, but not all of us follow it exactly.
To complete your life you are “supposed” to be conceived with married parents, to then grow up with both mom and dad, complete grade school, graduate high school, go to college, get a career, get married, have kids, raise kids, retire, visit grandkids, and then wait to die. This is what all of our lineage has done before us. We have to complete all of these and in that order. That is what we are “supposed” to do.
Now, if we don’t fulfill this plan we aren’t living life we are “supposed” to. We are expected to be like everyone else and follow this blueprint of life, but things don’t always go as planned, for me, my dad died when I was young and things haven’t gone exactly as planned since. If something changes and it doesn’t go as planned you don’t like it, and the people around you don’t like it, because now you’re different, you’re not like them anymore. Once you aren’t like them everything changes.
If you miss a step, then something bad has happened, and anything else that changes is supposedly because of that missed step. No one can be original anymore without being criticized. If you are different then something is “wrong.” It is not right that we are convicted of being wrong just because we think or act differently. To me someone different is usually cool, and I like that in a person, but no one else sees it that way and they are instantly quick to judge and ridicule those different.
So everyone is following this idea that someone made, and it’s a trap, anyone who challenges this idea gets shot down just because they are thinking different. If anything is different it is instantly considered wrong. After awhile the people who are different start to give up on trying to be original, because all they ever get is criticized and ridiculed.
So, if I don’t want to follow this idea, if I want to do something different, am I wrong? I believe in being different.
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