Right now, look around you. Who do you see? Sure, you probably see the same people you see every day. But who are they really? What do they want in life? How do they view themselves? It may not seem like it, but by asking yourself these questions you really find out who a person is. Let me start by stating the obvious. We are all humans. We all have that in common. But what is it about us that makes us different from one another? At some point everyone goes through some sort of struggle within themselves to figure out who they truly are, and what makes them stand out. It’s weird because early in our life what we want the most is to fit in with our friends, our families; we want to be exactly the same as the people we admire. But then later on, after years of playing copy-cat, many of us realize that what we truly want is just the opposite. We start to notice the bad spots and weaknesses in the people who we’ve been trying to fit in with all along. Maybe this doesn’t happen to everyone but I know I’ve gone through this and so have lots of my friends, each in our own way. And when I personally began to notice these things, I was wondering, what was wrong with me up until now? Why did I let the decisions of others automatically become the decisions I made? Why, when we entered middle school, did we all think that Birkenstock clogs and a North Face fleece jacket would make us cooler? I know it sounds doesn’t seem like these simple things could bring about a change within yourself but they really can. And when we start to notice it, is when our whole outlook on life begins to change. Now, what we want the most is to be a person that has what we view as ideal characteristics, which are different to everyone. Someone who, if you were to leave your body for a day and spend that time with yourself, you would be able to get along really well with and enjoy the company of. This isn’t arrogance, it’s just human nature. After all, you’re the one who will have to live with you for an entire lifetime, so you might as well be someone that you like. I believe in the individual. I think everyone has their own aspects about them that makes them who they are, and no matter what or who might come into you life, you should never deny yourself of those lifelong gifts.
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