Thoughts of what we believe in cannot leave my head. One day I noticed for myself the difference between pessimistic and optimistic people. Ones try to see the good out of a situation, while others see this situation as the beginning of a path for the worst. Why are they so dissimilar? Isn’t there any connection to the way of how we think? I believe in two powers of thoughts. The first is some kind of connection which I have in my mind that can have an influence on others, and the second is the way in which I think can change my internal world.
Humans have a connection in their mind that can influence others. For example, one common superstition is that if you hiccup, this means that someone is remembering you at that time. I could never imagine that I would experience something like that. I go to a church called Sulamita, located in Portland, OR, where I have met a wonderful girl. We talk and laugh together, but whenever we are apart, I keep her in my thoughts. It’s at those times when I’m thinking about her that I receive a message from her or even a phone call. A couple of times she shared the same situation with me. She was thinking of me right before I sent her a picture of two lovely monkeys. Don’t tell me that we communicate using the technologies only. Thus, we can influence others, without even being close to them.
The second connection can change the internal state, or internal world. Not too long ago, I had to talk to my sister about our dad. She couldn’t understand why he kept on ignoring her. She was so sure that our parents hated her. My father is a truck driver. He goes to work and comes back only after a couple of weeks. Personally, he doesn’t pay attention to anyone when he thinks deeply, and the profession he has closes his thoughts even more. One Sunday, when he was home, my sister had several unreturned attempts to reach his hearing; it was a waste of time. I truly believe though that he didn’t mean it. It is just the way he is. So I spoke to Natalie about thinking with love. She and I understood that we wouldn’t be able to change him, but we can always change our understanding. I can be mad and upset, but what will I change being in that mood? I will only bring discomfort and difficulty to myself and others. “Don’t be mad, be glad,” stands in my mind every time when I have trouble. Then I try to think differently: with love. I always see the answer; although sometimes it’s hard to find one.
Most of the time, the problem is inside. I should just to accept it and change the way that I see it. I should always strive to see the good out of life, no matter what the situation is.
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