No one can live your life for you, and you can’t live someone else’s life. I believe that in order to live life to the very fullest, I must be myself, and always be myself. I believe that if you don’t act like yourself, that you aren’t living your life, but someone else’s.
I know that everyone has had come to a time in their life when they wanted to be anyone but them, but the truth is that there is no better person to be than you. I remember a time when all the kids at school were separated into the popular kids, the nerdy kids, and everyone in between. I was part of one of the in between groups that didn’t care what others thought about me. My friends seemed to feel the same way.
However, my best friend started to change, and not in a good way. She longed so much for the friendship of the popular girls that she was willing to completely change her personality and change the way she acted. I knew right from the very start that this was going to turn out badly in the end, but my friend didn’t listen to my warning.
She started to go through major changes just so this group of girls would notice her. Surprisingly, the girls seemed to accept her plea for friendship. She now acted like she didn’t even know who I was. This went on for a long time. Then, all of a sudden the girls seemed to be pushing her away. I thought that they would eventually figure out that she was nothing but a phony face…and they did. Even though she treated me poorly, I was her true best friend, and I knew that I had to do something to defend her. I confronted the girls and tried to straighten everything out. Fortunately, it worked in my favor because they decided to accept her apology.
In the end, none of this would have happened if my friend had just been comfortable in her skin and been her self. Even though it did not happen directly towards me, I learned a very valuable lesson about being yourself and what a difference it can make. I believe that in order to really enjoy life and not miss out, you must be happy, and you must be yourself.
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