This I Believe

camille - radford, Virginia
Entered on October 4, 2006
Age Group: 18 - 30
Themes: forgiveness

Does Everyone Deserve A Second Chance?

Are you one of those people who think that everyone deserves a second chance? How about a cheating husband or a serial murderer, do they deserve second chances? Are you one of those people who believe that once you mess up the first time you’re done? Can people really change or do you believe in the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater”? If you are one to forgive and forget do you give those people a third chance? How about a forth? Where do you draw the line? If you continue forgiving people they will think they can always get away with things and you will become a pushover.

My father always said to me, “you should always forgive the people who have wronged you because that is what Jesus would do.” I think to myself, I’m not Jesus, not even close, so what the hell am I supposed to do? Should I be a pushover or a hard ass that holds grudges? I know that if I slipped up I would want a second chance. Wouldn’t that make you a hypocrite if you yourself didn’t forgive and forget? Everyone makes mistakes, so I think that everyone should have a chance to redeem themselves. When my sister and I were younger, we fought constantly. It didn’t matter what we were doing or where we were we always had to fight about something. Whether it was that I stole something from her closet, or she called me a butthead. We would scream at each other, chase each other around the house, pull hair and even bite if we were really mad. My father used to sit us down and make us forgive each other and give the other another chance against our will. So that makes me wonder, do we solely give people second chances because we feel like we’re forced to, or because we think that it’s the right thing to do? Do we solely do things because it is accepted by society as “right”? Can people really change or are they always going to be the same person they were in the beginning?

Personally, I believe that everyone deserves a second chance. No one is perfect and mistakes are a part of life. People don’t change over night, but if they are willing to try you must honor that and give them a chance to redeem themselves. I wouldn’t want to be labeled the rest of my life as a cheater, thief, or murderer. You aren’t the same person your whole life, and you make different decisions at different stages of your life. I not only think that it is the right thing to do, I think we owe it to those people who have wronged us to prove that they are good people. I think that as human beings everyone has a right to a second chance. I believe in redemption.