How Important Is Trust?
It is natural to trust because we learn trust from our parents. It feels good to really be able to trust someone completely. It is an essential component of love and an important test. Love without trust is simply dependence masked as love. When trust is broken, there is a feeling that part of you dies. I can remember clearly the day that I lost completely my ability to trust. I had casually dated guys during my early twenties although nothing serious but lasting friendships. In January 2001, I met a guy who came to change my life. I truly felt like God had sent me someone who I was destined to spend the rest of my life with. I was so happy, we were happy. We became engaged and I looked forward to planning a wedding and future with him.
I had just gotten home from work when the phone rang. On the other end was a woman whose voice I did not recognize. She introduced herself and informed me that she had been having a relationship with my fiancé for over a year. I was flabbergasted. I said, “You are lying.” Why was she trying to hurt me with these lies? I immediately hung up the phone but after collecting my thoughts I decided to call the woman back. I dialed *69 on the phone and ended up talking to this woman for over and hour while she described intimate encounters she and the man that I was to marry had shared.
On that day my ability to trust changed. However, to continue not to trust is to reward the people who have mistreated us and made us distrustful in the first place. These people have long deserted us and yet still they have a great influence on our lives. This is the irony of lack of trust. I believe trust is important. I am definitely more cautious when it comes to trusting someone but I’m willing to open up my heart up again and hopefully truly trust again.
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