This I Believe

Nicole - Duluth, Minnesota
Entered on September 11, 2006
Age Group: 18 - 30
Themes: love

Sex is everywhere in today’s society; it’s on television, it’s walking next to us on the streets, and it’s our celebrities, influencing our society everyday. Girls are now being brought up with the image of a perfect woman being someone like Paris Hilton and guys are now expecting girls to wear little booty shorts and bikini tops like the girls in music videos. With everyone focused on the sexual aspects of a relationship, you would wonder whether or not true love still exists.

I wholeheartedly believe that true love still exists today, because I know I’ve met the perfect guy for me. All the guys I’ve dated before were very sweet and kind, until I realized they had expectations of my clothing to be too revealing and my actions to be those of which I was not comfortable with; they expected me to be perfect and to entertain their “needs.” I even had one guy tell me that I should shave my arms because girls aren’t supposed to have hair anywhere other than their head!

It seemed that every guy I met wanted me to change so that I could be their idea of perfect, until one day came where I ran into an old friend of mine. I started hanging out with him a lot and realized he was significantly different from any of the other guys I’d ever met; he cared about my feelings, friends, family and made me laugh until I couldn’t breathe. Then a day came where we went to the park and played on the slide. I got stuck inside of it; he came down after me and we both ending up getting stuck in there together. I looked at him, while we were intermingled in the slide, and saw the playfulness of his eyes, the joy in his smile, and the love laid upon his lips, so I kissed him and my world changed.

After that kiss we were inseparable; he was always there for me and I for him. A person can really tell it’s true love when your partner’s opinion means everything to you, when they’re at your every beck and call on the days you’re feeling ill, when they support your goals and dreams, and when they care about you and not just the sexual aspects of the relationship. Society may be more and more influenced to only desire perfection and the sexual features of a relationship, but true love is out there. I believe that a kiss has given me my future and that true love lies hidden in those who have no expectations of the ones they love.